Monday, April 17, 2006

"It's natural for people to look at their lives in stages.

We don't like overlapping experiences. Instead, we try to end one chapter before moving on to the next.

With every transition, there is a farewell. There are three types of farewells that most of us experience:

Farewell to a relationship: We don't usually end up staying with our first love forever. Falling out of love is the norm.

We get married only once (hopefully), but fumble through many relationships before finding that one person we want to settle down with. It's funny how much we avoid saying "goodbye" in a relationship- to the point where some people stay together for too long simply because they can't handle breaking up.

Most act irrationally during breakups.

You think: "If i can just make her laugh in this one way, or if i can take her back to when we first met she'll fall in love with me again."

You expend extraordinary amounts of effort and imagination trying to convince her that it's not a final goodbye.

Other times, you find yourself being more cruel that you could ever have imagined- after being with someone for years and knowing how they feel about you, you still make the goodbye quick, fast and clinical.

I think people know when things are over and when it's time to say goodbye.

Once they do, it's pointless to keep trying.

But hope is a funny thing- sad movies suddenly become more poignant. "

- A teeny excerpt from a column written by freelance writer, Howard Lo, in The New Paper.

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